Why I No Longer Practice Tantra
For the longest time, the word Tantra carried a certain mystique for me. It brought to mind ideas of spiritual connection, and transcendent experiences. When I first began exploring sensual massage after leaving the strip club, Tantra seemed like a natural fit—a way to weave together the physicality I had come accustomed to and the spirituality I was unfolding towards.
But as I went deeper into this work, my perspective started to shift. While I deeply respect Tantra’s history and the healing it offers, I found myself being pulled toward somatics.
This was also a personal shift. Let me share a bit about why I stepped away from identifying with tantra and found myself drawn to somatics instead.
Why Tantra No Longer Resonates
For many people, Tantra is a beautiful way to explore intimacy and connection. But the way tantra is often approached in Western spaces didn’t align with what I was looking for—or with how I show up in this work.
A lot of the tantra I encountered emphasized spiritual ideals that, while meaningful to some, felt out of sync with my interest in grounded, science-based approaches to healing and embodiment.
People often come to tantra expecting it to be all about erotic pleasure or spiritual transcendence, but that can overshadow the deeper work involved: building self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and a connection to your body.
Falling In Love With Somatics
When I discovered somatics, it made tons of sense to me. Instead of focusing on transcendence, somatic work is all about embodiment—being fully present in your body. It’s about learning to notice your body’s signals, identifying patterns of tension or disconnection, and creating a sense of safety and awareness within yourself.
Sexological bodywork drew me in with how aligned it is with my values and approach. Sexological bodywork prioritizes education, meeting people exactly where they are without imposing spiritual frameworks. It creates space for exploration, healing, and growth in a way that’s practical, personal, and deeply respectful of each person’s unique experience.
The thing I love about both practices is how they honor the body as a source of wisdom. While Tantra sometimes has themes transcending your body, somatics is about coming home to it.
Our bodies hold so much—memories, emotions, patterns—that shape how we live and connect with the world. By working directly with the body through things like breath, movement, touch, and awareness, we can start to uncover and shift those patterns in ways that feel truly transformative.
Conclusion
As I move away from Tantra, I do so with gratitude for everything it’s taught me but somatics and sexological bodywork feel like a much truer reflection of how I approach healing and connection. They’re both grounded in curiosity, consent, and care, but my new path offers a practical, more accessible path for anyone wanting to connect more deeply with themselves.
If you’ve been curious about exploring sensuality, intimacy, or embodiment in a way that feels grounded and free from rigid spiritual frameworks, I’d love to invite you into this work. Together, we can explore what it means to truly inhabit your body, listen to its wisdom, and honor the unique story it holds.